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The way that you treat your partner is probably a mirror of the way they treat you, and so if you are kind and loving, or at least if you see yourself as kind and loving, when a breakup happens, the wounding and emotional pain are all the greater because what you feel you've given out is so valuable and precious.
Yet the truth of the matter is that in every breakup, both the ex-boyfriend in the ex-girlfriend have conflicting issues which get in the way of clear perception.
Rarely is a relationship breakup due to one person's actions alone: it's always due to a combination of circumstances and people who haven't dealt with their historical emotional wounds, their emotional wounds from childhood, the issues that prevent them being the fully mature person they can be. These wounds are held in shadow, and require a form of therapy known as "shadow work" or "emotional process work" to resolve them.
So when you break up with somebody, and you really want to get back together with them because you know that you love them very deeply and dearly, and that they are fundamentally the right person for you, then your first action has to be to work on your old emotional issues and old wounds. This is what we cal emotional baggage.
Only then will you be in a position to actually deal with the problems you face and only then will you be in a position to deal with the issues that kept you apart in the first place. Only then will you be able to have a mature relationship free of anger, rage, grief, and general emotional anxiety.
One of the best ways to do this is to engage in shadow work which is a form of Jungian psychology or active psychotherapy, which allows you to access old wounds in a very quick and easy way, often in a safe container of people who are supporting you, and then radically altered the historical "recordings" that you have in your mind, so that you see yourself in a very different way.
However, working on your shadow is an option to deal with historical wounds that are preventing you from enjoying a relationship may allow you to see how your ex partner may, in fact, have been the right one for you! You see, working on your shadow offers a whole range of practical techniques that you enable you to move forward into a new relationship with an ex-partner. This would clearly be helpful if you come to realise you really want to get back together with an ex-partner after a relationship breakup.
There are, of course, other approaches to this situation. One of the best I've found is a program set out by Michael Fiore. He has written an Internet "Relationship Recovery" program named "Text Your Ex Back". This reveals how your boyfriend or girlfriend, or rather your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, may be responsive to a certain approach if you wish to get back together with them.
That approach is not an emotional one, nor is it seduction, nor is it charm, nor is it whining and neediness. All of these are approaches used by people who want to get back together with an ex-partner, but strangely enough, these approaches rarely work. I'll leave you to work out why!
Much more productive approaches can generate a sense of belonging, a sense of togetherness, a sense that actually your relationship is the right one. This is the view of the mature couple who can see living together as a good option which offers support, companionship, mutual respect, love, admiration, and so on. These are the values of humanity at its finest.
So what's with the idea of texting an ex-partner to get back together?
Can it really be true that texting your partner, or rather your ex-partner, is a way of establishing a NEW relationship that is meaningful and productive? Well, modern psychology suggests that there are many different behavioral techniques that can get people back together after breakup, and one of them is to separate their feelings from their desires.
In other words you're not going to start trying to get back together with your ex because you believe that it's going to be good for your ego. Nor are you going to do it because you feel lonely without them. Rather, you will get back together with an ex partner because you actually believe that's the best thing for both of you, in the long-term. This allows you both to enjoy natural personal growth and development, as well as increasing your happiness and relationship success.
So Mike Fiore's techniques allow you to approach your partner, your ex-partner, by sending text messages. All of these have been carefully prescribed in a form your that allows you to separate your emotional wounds from your communication, so you can express what you want and how you want it in a non-emotional way.
Truth of the matter is, a lot of communication these days is done by text message, so why we should be surprised that the concept of relationship repair taking place in the same way