Male Sexuality Facts
Great Relationships Depend On Having Good Sex (part 2)
Successful Loving, Happy Relationships
A clandestine affair might seem exciting (in your mind or in actuality when it happens), but it cannot compare with sharing a rewarding sex life with a partner you love. Imagine giving an orgasm to the woman you married, the woman whom you love and with whom you share everything in your life. Isn't this the best kind of sex?
And when you do learn how to give her this incredible God-given pleasure, you might be amazed at how she will become a more exciting person to be around, and how that life-numbing boredom that led you to think about possibly cheating (or maybe actually doing it) will disappear once you have a sexually excited spouse in your life. This is, of course, all about finding the ideal relationship - a loving relationship -- for you and your ideal woman.
And of course, the only reason a woman would cheat on the man she loves and is married to and wants to spend the rest of her life with is because she's sexually frustrated. She may keep "getting to the edge of the orgasm during sex but never going over the edge.
This is a source of physical frustration for many women. Men can't even imagine getting to the point of almost having an orgasm and never having it because they rarely experience that. It's truly beyond their comprehension. And some women have endured this for years!
Many women have told me that sex is not that important, that they're really looking only for affection, only for hugs and "I love you's." However, if a husband takes the time and trouble to learn how to give his wife an orgasm every time they enjoy intercourse, she is much more likely to remain sexually faithful. This kind of sexual sharing will let her know you care enough to satisfy her sexually and ensure she enjoys sexual pleasure. So let's start with a comparison of male and female orgasm.
And who says the hugs and "I love you's" will be there when the orgasm is not? The bottom line is that every woman who loves a man wants, at some level, to surrender to that man, wants him to make her have an orgasm through intercourse. Unfortunately, many men have no idea how to do this.
But when a man learns how to please a woman in bed and lovingly teases her and drives her wild and then makes her come, his woman will have a lot more respect for him. (She loves to think how he took control of her body and how he loves her. She knows he cares enough to make this unbounded ecstasy happen for her. She will also feel intimacy (as she sees it, "I feel closer than I ever thought possible to the man I love").
So it takes the love of the husband to understand the possible problem and to have the strength to take charge in the sexual arena. When he's making love with a great technique, bringing her towards orgasm, a woman must know she is safe, respected, that her husband loves her, and he can take charge of her body. Now, we do know women have many fewer orgasms than men. Let's look at that in more detail.
A man cannot allow himself to be be intimidated by his woman. He must realize that every woman, deep down, desires her man to take control of her body - not her life, not her money, but her body.
This is why love and faithfulness and commitment and marriage are so important to a truly happy sex life. When a woman is in love with a man and is loved in return by him, someone she trusts totally, she will allow him to take charge of her body and give her sexual nirvana every single time you make love.
You cannot have a great marriage without that deep sexual intimacy. This is what being "in love" is all about.
Sexual Power - The Man's Viewpoint
Not only is it tremendously exciting for a man to feel sexual power over the woman he loves, it is even more exciting for his wife to feel his sexual power. But some women are afraid of a man's sexual power.
A lot of women think every married woman should be in control of her own orgasm and should learn to masturbate so she's not dependent on her husband. I think the only reason some women say this is because they have given up on their husbands ever learning how to give them orgasms through intercourse.
But once a man learns how to do this, real sexual excitement will take over the marriage, and if he felt love from her before, he won't believe the love he's going to feel from her now.
In a survey of 486 married women from all over the country in 1980, 1 found out that I was not the only woman "faking" it with my husband (remember, this was 1980 and nobody talked about faking then; it was still in the closet).
Up till then I honestly thought I was the only one, and I also thought there was something wrong with me, because every time we made love, my husband had an orgasm, so there was obviously nothing wrong with him—it had to be me.
This ultimately led to my divorce. Let me give you a short scenario on why marriages break up and why husbands and wives cheat.
Every woman is looking for a "soul mate." I don't care who she is: stay-at-home wife or career-oriented woman; underneath it all there is a longing in every woman to find her "better half" and so become a perfectly together whole.
Now two people meet, fall in love, and get married, each confident that the other is the missing half, the first few months are divine. Slowly, though, once in a while the wife will get a little testy and sure enough, her man responds testily. The problem? An orgasm gives endorphins, and her body is screaming out for the missing endorphins - missing because the orgasms are missing. And as more months go by, more spats develop.
How many men could go six months or a year without an orgasm or hardly ever having one? And how cranky, crabby, bitchy would he be if he did go six months or a year without one? It's no different for women!
So she bitches about the top he left off the toothpaste tube, the bills, etc., and he screams back. But she's not bitching about bills or toothpaste tops. Her body is very tense and nervous, which makes her mind and spirit tense and nervous. And so would his be if he never got sexual pleasure or satisfaction.
As the spats continue and slowly worsen, and the yelling gets louder, each starts to think, "This can't possibly be my soul mate. I made a mistake." And each starts to secretly look for a new and different soul mate. And the relationship may then be over. All for the want of a great sex life. So - men: learn how to give a woman great orgasms. Women - make sure your man knows how pleasure you!